Abstinence
Something that I and my fellow classmates have (awkwardly) been discussing in our advisory is sex. We have talked a lot about issues like STDs/STI's, HIV, homosexuals, and the media's influence. In this blog post, I will focus particularly on the idea of abstinence/celibacy, and elaborate on how I'd feel if the people I admire support it.
For one, I really think that celibacy and other intercourse-related issues are left for individuals to decide. I personally feel that I should remain abstinent until marriage, but that's just because of my moral beliefs; I don't want to endanger myself or my partner through indecisive sexual activities. To me, it is improper to engage in sexual activities unless I know the full consequences and truly love someone for an extended period of time. However, I don't want to impose my opinion on others, and only advise that people generally remain smart in their sexual dealings.
As for how my role models play a role in this, my advisor provided a good question by asking how I'd take it if they were in support or against abstinence. Honestly and quite frankly, I don't care. Whether the people I look up to are Mormons with 20+ children or 100-year old virgins, as long as their hearts and beliefs are in the right place, i can't argue with them. Of course, that's not to say that all of their sexual activities can be justified. I can have no respect for a man or a woman who has unrestricted amounts of sex for solely personal benefit, and does not keep the well being of his/her spouse(s) in mind. Those kinds of people are downright jerks, and I would not look up to them even if they act with perfection in every other way. Thankfully, though, my main role models are my parents and philosophers like Socrates, both of which probably wouldn't act so insensitive.
Comments
Dear Nicholas, I read your
Dear Nicholas,
I read your post about "Abstinence" because sometimes I think about how my life would have been if I wouldve waited to do grown up things. I was with him for 2 years before that happened.
One sentence you wrote that stands out for me is "I really think that celibacy and other intercourse-related issues are left for individuals to decide," I agree with this because parents always tell their kids that they need to be or should be celibate but its really up to US. If you want to have sex you just have to be smart about it.
Another sentence you wrote that stood out for me was "I don't want to endanger myself or my partner through indecisive sexual activities," because I dont think anybody wants to endanger them selves or their partner. You just have to use all the protection you can and get tested! Dont take any chances and dont let anyone tell you they are healthy. You can never tell if someone has something or not.
Your post reminds me of my first time. As I stated before I was with my partner for 2 years before had ant type of intercourse. At that time my aunt was always talking to me about being celibate and to wait. Not to rush into things. Thats what I wanted to do but it didnt go down that way. Things happen for a reason. I think its cool you want to be celibate though. Stick to your word.
Thank you for writing. Look foward to seeing what you write next.