Something that I have been interested in learning more about has been anger and anger management. I remember that i can get out of hand at times. I'm a very angry person. I remember when I'm not getting things to go my way, I get angry and lose my temper. I remember when I was having fun with my friends and we were playing video game and I was losing badly & nothing was going my way. Instead of keeping myself calm & collected, I lashed out in a burst of anger.
Lately I'm having these burst of anger from time to time, but I'm trying to have it under control. I’ve been trying to keep it control but I'm on a break through. It is confusing to me that I have such an anger problem when I can be a laid back, calm & collected person.
As I got older, I noticed that I had this problem. I wasn't an angry kid when was I was younger. This problem became a problem as I got older & more wiser. I’ve learned that anger can be cause from many things other than losing a game. It can be caused from lack of sleep, over working yourself, stress and even work. But some ways of handling this is that people can go to an anger management program to have control.
Being that I didn't have a lot of background information on Anger Management, I did some research. I found this article, http://www.nymft.com/Anger_Management.html. I choose this research because it a program for anger management. The article talks about how you control your anger and what make you lash out when you are angry. A quote from the research was “How you respond to anger is based on how you think and feel”. I believe that quote means that anger is caused by what you are feeling and how you are thinking. If you’re feeling and thinking anger, you’ll become angry. I agree with the quote also because it is true when you’re mad, it is mainly because of that your feeling,or thinking anger.
In another search, I found an article called called Controlling Anger Before it Controls you. http://www.apa.org/topics/anger/control.aspx. This research talks about how anger can be caused by both external and internal events. Sometime there’s anger built up from your past. The article also talk about how the natural way to express anger is to respond aggressively. And that is a natural adaptive response to threats, it inspires powerful, often aggressive, feelings and behaviors, which allow us to fight and to defend ourselves when we are attacked. I agree with this because when I’m in aggressive mood, I tend to make an attack.
This article also says anger is "an emotional state that varies in intensity from mild irritation to intense fury and rage." I agree with this quote because when you are angry, you unleash hell and fury upon all the people around you even yourself.
In the podcast, Sleep Deprivation-Radio Lab,
the reporter talks about how the lack of sleep can cause one to become angry & aggressive. The podcast was talking about anger, and how a family was not able to get the amount of sleep they wanted because there was a new baby in the house. Since they lacked sleep, the parents became uneasy & angry which made their baby unhappy. Because the baby was unhappy, the family became more angrier and aggressive, and became a cycle over and over.
All of this makes me think that everyone has anger problems. In my case, anger became frustration as I grew up. Being that I had to grow up fast has a kid, I held all that anger in. Some people never want to grow & see the outside world but this isn’t true for me. Also the fact that I can’t get thing to go my way all the time get me frustrated. Now I’ve gotten older and wiser, now I know how to control my anger. One way that I keep my anger under control is that I think about what the consequences are.