Anger Management
Something that I have been interested in learning more about has been anger and anger management. I remember that i can get out of hand at times. I'm a very angry person. I remember when I'm not getting things to go my way, I get angry and lose my temper. I remember when I was having fun with my friends and we were playing video game and I was losing badly & nothing was going my way. Instead of keeping myself calm & collected, I lashed out in a burst of anger.
Lately I'm having these burst of anger from time to time, but I'm trying to have it under control. I’ve been trying to keep it control but I'm on a break through. It is confusing to me that I have such an anger problem when I can be a laid back, calm & collected person.
As I got older, I noticed that I had this problem. I wasn't an angry kid when was I was younger. This problem became a problem as I got older & more wiser. I’ve learned that anger can be cause from many things other than losing a game. It can be caused from lack of sleep, over working yourself, stress and even work. But some ways of handling this is that people can go to an anger management program to have control.
Being that I didn't have a lot of background information on Anger Management, I did some research. I found this article, http://www.nymft.com/Anger_Management.html. I choose this research because it a program for anger management. The article talks about how you control your anger and what make you lash out when you are angry. A quote from the research was “How you respond to anger is based on how you think and feel”. I believe that quote means that anger is caused by what you are feeling and how you are thinking. If you’re feeling and thinking anger, you’ll become angry. I agree with the quote also because it is true when you’re mad, it is mainly because of that your feeling,or thinking anger.
In another search, I found an article called called Controlling Anger Before it Controls you. http://www.apa.org/topics/anger/control.aspx. This research talks about how anger can be caused by both external and internal events. Sometime there’s anger built up from your past. The article also talk about how the natural way to express anger is to respond aggressively. And that is a natural adaptive response to threats, it inspires powerful, often aggressive, feelings and behaviors, which allow us to fight and to defend ourselves when we are attacked. I agree with this because when I’m in aggressive mood, I tend to make an attack.
This article also says anger is "an emotional state that varies in intensity from mild irritation to intense fury and rage." I agree with this quote because when you are angry, you unleash hell and fury upon all the people around you even yourself.
In the podcast, Sleep Deprivation-Radio Lab,
http://www.radiolab.org/2007/may/24/sleep-deprivation/
the reporter talks about how the lack of sleep can cause one to become angry & aggressive. The podcast was talking about anger, and how a family was not able to get the amount of sleep they wanted because there was a new baby in the house. Since they lacked sleep, the parents became uneasy & angry which made their baby unhappy. Because the baby was unhappy, the family became more angrier and aggressive, and became a cycle over and over.
All of this makes me think that everyone has anger problems. In my case, anger became frustration as I grew up. Being that I had to grow up fast has a kid, I held all that anger in. Some people never want to grow & see the outside world but this isn’t true for me. Also the fact that I can’t get thing to go my way all the time get me frustrated. Now I’ve gotten older and wiser, now I know how to control my anger. One way that I keep my anger under control is that I think about what the consequences are.
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Dear EBCHS12 Many people
Dear EBCHS12
Many people face anger problems and i understand that it might not always be easy. I used to have a similar issue and
Dear EBCHS12, I am very
Dear EBCHS12,
I am very interested with your post "Anger Management," because I am interested with psychology. To learn why people do the things they do is fascinating for me. It shows the reasons why people do certain things.
One sentence you wrote that stands out for me is "I remember when I'm not getting things to go my way, I get angry and lose my temper." I used to be like this when I was seven years old. After I grew up and matured, I changed into a more responsible and reasonable person.
Dear EBCh12 I
Dear EBCh12
I understand your problem and post of “ anger management” because its a usual problem everywhere people don't know how to control their anger and they would need to use this management process to get better. It makes me think of how this issue is so popular but yet it really don't have a full cure to not have it happen again.
one sentence that you wrote that stood out for is “ i wasn't an angry kid when i was younger. this problem became worse as i got older and wiser.” i think this problem is very popular.Its interesting because it sounds like its a disease as you grow the problem increases over time and you have to take medicine which is you program of anger management.
Another sentence that i liked was “Ive learned that anger can be caused from many things as lack of sleep,over working,stress, “ this stood out for me the most because its a common thing and as i said its very popular because its sounds like you are coming from a tough family that u need to help out you family members in order to keep your time going.
I am really interested of reading on to your next posts because they are real interesting and makes me think about this world and problems like anger management.
dear ebchs im glad i came
dear ebchs
im glad i came across your post about anger management, this topic is very picky sometimes and have to be looked at from all point of views.
to me anger is a problem. sometimes i don't know how to separate my feelings and the whole picture and what i can do to avoid an altercation. I can admit i tend to do before thinking.
people are different, people have different tolerances than others. different attitudes can clash at the wrong minute dealing with the wrong people. self control to me is the best way to control anger, if you can control yourself and think everything through then you can get through any problem.
then on the other hand some people are sensitive, like for instance me for example. not sensitive in the sense of emotional, but sensitive like as in i don't take things lightly, i don't like people talking or looking at me a certain way because I'm going to have something to say. i know that ay of handling things are not good but again everything is a work in progress. i admit I'm the nicest person in the world, loyal and a good friend, but once you become my enemy you are now against me and the person who have a problem with will know i have a problem with them.... i don't condone fake people.
the sentence that stood out to me was "control your anger before it controls you", that stood out for me because this my problem, my anger does control me.
i look forward to reading some more things from you on things i find interesting