Throughout my career as an athlet e I have experienced both good and bad coaches. Unfortunately, I must admit that I have experience coaches that fair on the rather 'bad' side of the coaching spectrum. But what makes a good coach? I think there are many things that a high school athlete needs as far as guidance and instruction, but I think think many coaches have over looked those things in order to achieve a more authoritative and assertive role.
Maybe its because I'm a senior this year as well as a captain, but this year I have had to deal with my coach more. More team meetings, more issues to handle, more responsibility etc... In previous years I never had much interaction as far as planning things out and keeping the team well organized. But this year the pressure
is on. Which would be fine, if I wasn't getting constantly yelled at, scolded for voicing my opinion, and somewhat "blamed" for what goes wrong. That, more than anything, turns me away. I am a firm believer in respect, and for me, respect goes both ways. I hold respect for you, if you hold respect for me. But sometimes I think coaches kind of forget that. At least, the coaches I've had sometimes do. Yelling at practice is expected. If you make a mistake, you should be instructed on how to avoid it in the future, or to reflect on why it was a mistake. I get that. Mistakes are a part of the game. Yelling, is a part of a game. But when players are walking out of practice clearly defeated, and girls cry after a drill because of being constantly ragged on, I think it becomes a problem
There has to be a better way to coach without having players lose faith and respect
for themselves. One coach I know, Jamie, once confronted some of my teammates and I after a game - one of which our coach completely lost it - and explained, "I try to never get worked up. Not in the game, and not at my players". I think this should be true of all coaches. And it's not just in soccer. In my understanding, football coaches always seem to have the fear-stricken perception. I remember last year I was waiting to speak to one of our football coaches outside of the locker room because I couldn't go in there and I asked a freshman if he could please tell the Coach that I was waiting to talk to him. As soon as the question left my mouth the boy's immediate response was a wide-eyed grimace and the words "OHHHHH NO!". At the time it made me laugh, but looking back on it, should players really be afraid of their coaches? Yes, and intimidation level can be used to make your players perform but when it gets to the point that we cannot even approach them due to the consequences that could come, is that really a healthy relationship?
"However, few coaches are actually aware that their own expectations and behaviors helped produce this self-fulfilling performance result in their athletes. Thus, it is absolutely critical that all coaches understand the cyclical relationship between their expectations and players' performance - players' athletic development and enjoyment are dependent on this knowledge. "