Can sex lead to love?
I just read this blog Brett, S. (2011) The Sydney Morning Herald. Can sex lead to love, [blog] 4th November, Available at: http://blogs.smh.com.au/lifestyle/asksam/archives/2008/11/can_sex_lead_t... [Accessed: 24th Novemeber 2011]. I think this can really clearify one reason people fall in love: SEX. Brett says that having sex with one person many times, can make you attracted to them.
One sentence that stood out for me was "They say love is like a drug that brings about a sensation of euphoria and pleasure so intense it can become highly addictive." I think this really explains how love gets to you. A lot of guys and girls avoid falling in love, but when love is in the air, you can't escape it.
I'm pretty sure this is true because Brett did research. She asked a doctor, and he proved it right. To test it, he asked a beauty therapist who has a male bestfriend of 3 years to have sex. She proved it right, he fell for her, but it's not what she wanted.
Another sentence that stood out for me was, "We all know you can have sex without falling in love." I knew a guy in my old school, who had had sex with one girl for three years. He had sex with her because he was scared to fall in love with someone who would hurt him. He didn't want to fall for her, but he did the more she comforted him with sex and more sex. He later saw himself asking her on a date. And now, they will make four years of being together, including the sex years.
I double checked this fact though Schultz, R. (2011) Healthy Self . Casual Sex: Why It CAN Lead to Love, [blog] 6th Oct, Available at: http://www.self.com/health/blogs/healthyself/2011/10/casual-sex-why-it-c... [Accessed: 24th November 2011]. Her blog pretty much says the same thing. Casual sex with the same person can lead to a relationship. It just takes a risk.
I honestly thought that in order to fall in love, you need someone who understand you pysically, mentally, and emotionally. I knew sex had to do with falling for someone, now I think friends with benefits often do catch feelings.