Can you maintain a Healthy Relationship without having Sex?
Something that I have been interested in learning more about has been if people can maintain healthy relationships without involving sex. I remember my best friend and I talking about it one time in a sleepover, but even though we had similar opinions we were still unsure on whether we had an answer. Lately, the issue has caught my eye again. I know that many people feel that sex is a must in a relationship. From what I’ve heard not many people believe it’s possible. For example, I heard that if you “give it up” right away you're considered smutty, but if you wait a while it’s fine. Now that’s just what I’ve heard, it may not be true.
One thing that I know for sure about maintaining a healthy relationship is that trust and respect are extremely important. Now, I’ve studied my share of relationships and believe it to be uncertain personally, It’s funny to me how relationships last longer when nobody/few know(s) your business.
Maintaining a healthy relationship without sex has always been a questionable statement. Our generations change, and become more developed than the last. Now we have children as young as 12 indulging themselves in sexual activity simply, because they think it’s the thing to do when in a “relationship.” Truth be told, we all know that the term “sex” is meant for adults and married couples, us teens are taught sexual education to maintain us cautious about our social environment. Many times we are misled into peer pressure, we just give in because of the moment, or we feel we’re in love. Majority of the times, it’s not love we feel, it’s infatuation.
Being that I didn’t have a lot of background information on keeping a relationship without sex, I chose to do some research on the topic. As I searched for blogs and news articles on Google, I came across this one article: Maintaining a Healthy Relationship Tips, http://relationship.lifetips.com/cat/64854/maintaining-a-healthy-relatio... . This article provided a lot of information and opinions on how to maintain a healthy relationship. Some people felt that in order to maintain the relationship there were seven easy steps “how to.” Some of these steps included: trust and respect, communication, and fighting fair. “Avoid blame and judgment.” This statement didn’t really surprise me all that much, but it did make me feel like it’s something many people do. Every human judges on another, and others blame the wrong person. In a relationship this becomes a problem, because you are supposed to accept your partner with flaws and all.
In another article, “How to Help Your Teenagers regain or maintain Their Virginity" http://liferelationships.com/resources/articles/viewarticle.asp?articlei... , there was this one statement that made me shake my head in disagreement or rather say, shame with the writer. It was: “ In a recent national study, 54% of teenagers in grades 9 through 12 said they had had sexual intercourse.” This is so true because when I entered high school I never knew so many of my peers were sexually active. As I got to know them better, I became use to the fact that virgins were very rare. I believe that that percentage just increases by the generation, because like stated before they just develop quicker.
All of this makes me think that chances are you can’t always maintain a healthy relationship without sex. Although, you should never feel pressured to do anything you don’t want to do. Always think ahead, and what comes next. Picture yourself in all the scenarios possible, good and bad. Last but not least, make sure you’re making the right decision and feel physically, emotionally, and mentally prepared.