Creative Asking Overrated
Why does it seem that most girls require guys to ask them in a "creative way" to a dance? Why can't guys just ask girls face to face so that there is no obligation for a girl to go with someone that they don't want to go with? I feel that this "tradition" is overrated and is a waste of time. In my opinion, guys should ask someone in a conversation, directly, so that if a girl is going to say no, they say it right there. It really is disappointing when someone spends a lot of time designing and making a "creative question", when they are just told no later on. Also, when guy asks a girl to a dance, there is a sense of obligation for the girl to go with him. They may feel bad about turning down someone who has spent time posing a question, so they feel they can't say no.
Why can't we go back to the traditional way, where asking a girl through conversation was ok? When talking to my parents about this topic, they questioned why it became normal to ask a girl in a special way. I told them, "I have no idea why". My mother said that when a guy or a girl wanted to go with someone else, they would ask them directly, face to face, with no confusion or obligation.
As I said before, I feel this way is very overvalued. Lets go back to the old way so that asking someone to a dance is less of a hassle and less to worry about in our busy lives.
High school's hard enough without the potential for rejection that comes with asking a girl to a school dance, unless if you're dating her (although even that may not be a safeguard).
You can't guarantee that the girl is going to say "yes." There are too many factors... she may have a previous engagement, she may be going with someone else, or she may just plain not like you.
