jealousy/envy

Ashley, I agree that jealousy is presented by the cultures we live in. I would assume that those of us who are reading this have felt jealousy, whether it be over a person's ability to do something we ourselves cannot or someone's possessions that we don't have. People, including myself, must realize the importance of uniqueness and the ability to love one's own self without feeling like they're inadequate. I look forward to seeing what other people say about your topic on jealousy and how it affects our ways of living.

I agree with you Ashley. When a person is jealous they usually are insecure about themselves or something. A lot iof things can start or occure when one or more people are jealous. I have experienced mant things where a friend has been jealous. Silly things can happen, such as stupid fights, or arguements brought our because of the jealousy. In fact, I am also a culprate of being jealous and doing something stupid that I regret. What I've learned throught middle school dealing with jealousy is that all it is, is your insecurities. By beong jealous it kind of hides the fact that your insecure about yourself. It can take as few as a month or two, to years to get over being jealous. Another thing I have learned is that jealousy ruins relationships. It ruined a friendship of mine terribly, and I'm still affected by it. No one should be jealous of someone, but it is something that our bodies just can't help. It's something natural that happens all the time and we can't do much about it. The only option we have is when it happens, and you can see your jealous, is to try and stop yourself and see what you have and they don't. Girls are always jealous of eachother, another girl always has something the other wants, wether its being skinny, or having blue eyes. In order to not be jealous you have to look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself that your just as beautiful. There is nothing you can change about your apperance, so why not accept yourself and not be jealous. Jealousy can even occur in the world itself (countries envying eachother because one has a reasource that the other does not). It happens all the time, in fact, everyday, and we don't even realize it because it is just something natural, a natural instinct, that we can't help from doing. We all need to step back and look at ourselves in the mirror and tell ourselves that we are all beautiful in our own ways and there is no reason we need to be jealous of other people. 

People do funny things when they are jealous, and they may not do the smartest things. This is one of the main reasons why people bully other people. They may be jealous of the way you play soccer or the high heels you wear and even the friends you hang out with. If your ever jealous of someone don't bring the level so high that it turns out to hurt the other person...they may ever be your friends! The sad part of this whole story is they are usually your friends and you just like their hair style or the expensive clothing they wore. All you have to go to is ask them where they got the shirt or you can even just compliment them on the shirt. Why does anyone have to bully anyone else if the only reason they did it was to hurt their feelings and maybe "scare" them out of being so "cool." I really don't get or understand how people are jealous of others. You are probably someone that someone else is jealous of too! So why do you have to start the chain...just don't get involved and no one will get hurt. So every one please don't add to the change...STOP IT!

Jealousy. That is a very strong word, especially for middle school girls. Everyone is going to be jealous of someone at one point of their life. One of your good friends is going to have something you really really want but you cant have,y ou obviously would be jealous of them. Who wouldnt? But being jealous of someones appearance is different. You should just accept who you are becauase that is something you cant change. Love yourself and dont be someone who your not. Jealousy is not just a word, its basically the story of my life.

Jealousy caused fights between my best friends and I. It ruined our friendship and it is still affecting me to this day. Jealousy turned my life around and I regret everything that happened between my friends and I. If you start to be jealous of someone try to push the thought out of your head. Especially if its one of your good friends. Believe me jealousy shouldnt be something to ruin your friendship. I learned from that experience, accept who you are your here for a reason! Be yourself and dont be jealous! 

Dear Ashley,

I am disappointed with your post “Jealousy / Envy“ because you say“ jealousy is not to be confused with envy.“ If you were educated before posting, you would know that jealousy and envy are words describing the same thing. Jealousy is derived from envy, it's actually a synonym for envy.

A synonym is a word or phrase that means exactly or nearly the same as another word or phrase, in the same language. I feel like jealousy comes from ignorance. It's sad that there's people who don’t understand where their emotions come from because of their Ignorance.

One sentence that stood out for me was “people need to stop a love themselves for who they are.“ I totally agree but I don't think its the cure for envy. Appreciation is the only treatment for envy, it can’t be stopped because as humans we will always want something that we lack or can’t have.

Thanks for writing this post. I look forward to what you write back because I want to know if you understand the importance of appreciation, words, & emotions. I want you to understand ignorance causes people to use words the wrong way which causes emotions. All actions have reactions. It's up to us as people to try to understand the meaning and root of those words/actions so we can control and correct them.

Very interesting topic, Ashley. I get what you are saying that some people think its only in some cultures. I agree with your last comment were you say that people should be thankful for what they have and love who they are. Many people talk about this topic and would like to know more about how people become a "jealous" type. I can relate a lot to this topic, Ashley, because my older sister and cousin fought and destroyed our family for a while all due to jealousy by my cousin. Thank you for writing. I look forward to seeing what you write next, because i would like to know more about this topic. I will definitely come by and see what else you write about this topic because this affects everyone one in a way because all most everyone is unhappy about what they have.