Something that I have always been interested in learning more about has been Love. I remember many family members or friends talking about it when i was at a younger age but they would always protest that I was too young to know about love, or even ask about it. Lately, the issue has caught my eye again. I know that many people feel that you are “too young to know what love is” or “only the wise and matured couples really know what they feel”, but is that exactly true? From what I heard, love is not a thing you figure out with age, and you’ve always known what it was, even from a young age? You know you love your family, so why can’t you know if its the same for a significant other?
One thing I know for sure about love is that its one of the most important feeling for a human being. its a strong emotion of “ affection or personal attachment” (wiki). Now I’ve studied the “chemical basis” of love and learned that “ Biological models of [love]..Divide into tree overlapping stages: Lust, attraction and attachment”. Personally, it’s funny to me how love actually has something to do with the heart. Because of all the chemical basis of love, like attraction for example, increases the heart rate and has other physical effects.
The subject of love has been very important. I know love has a lot to do with human bonding, and how we are emotionally connected to a person. I also believe there is many forms of love. There’s love you feel for your mother, your siblings, your friends, kids. a boyfriend or girlfriend, the list goes on. You understand that you love them, but isn’t it different for each other them? And with that being said, does age or experience have anything to do with whether you love someone or not?
Being that I didn’t have a lot of background information on love, I chose to do some research on the topic. As I searched for blogs or news articles on Google, I came across this one article : The Amazing Power Of Love (http://findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_m1077/is_4_56/ai_69653976/) . This article provided a lot of information and opinions on Love. In this article, it explains that a presents of a woman and her love, gives men better health.
“According to a new study by sociologists at the University of Chicago, the presence of a woman in the household significantly contributes to better health for men. How significant, you might ask? As an example, the research indicates that if a wife works full-time, her husband's chances of being in good health plummet by more than 25 percent.”
This statement surprised me because, I believe the presents of the opposite sex or the same sex should be a equal significance for all, because humans need other humans to love.
In another article, The Science of Love (http://www.youramazingbrain.org/lovesex/sciencelove.htm), there was one statement that mad me nod my head in agreement with the writer. It was
“Love needs to be blind
Newly smitten lovers often idealize their partner, magnifying their virtues and explaining away their flaws says Ellen Berscheid, a leading researcher on the psychology of love.
New couples also exalt the relationship itself. “It's very common to think they have a relationship that's closer and more special than anyone else's”. Psychologists think we need this rose-tinted view. It makes us want to stay together to enter the next stage of love – attachment.”
This is very true because I’ve met many people in a relation ship who saw nothing but positives in their partner and after the relationships end, they understand that they were “blinded” by love and did know what they saw in them.
Reading all of these articles really makes me think that love is defiantly something that cannot be defined, and no matter how many words you use to describe it, I think there will always be more to it.