parents

Dear Poster,

I agree with you.  Your right about how sometimes parents don't understand us teenagers sometimes.  They never really experienced what we are going through right now or if they did, then it was a long long time ago.  But the thing is, society back then was different from what it is today.  So things that are happening to us, our parents probably never dealt with it in their childhood.  My parents are from Bangladesh and they both grew up in strict families.  Growing up in a Bangladeshi society, they didn't have as much freedom as we do here in the U.S.  

Even though they may not understand some things about what we go through, they are still our parents and we still have to respect them.  Our mothers went through 9 difficult months carrying us and what she went through during labor must have been excruciatingly difficult.  But she still had us.  Our parents care for us a lot.  They were always there when we needed them.  Like if we were sick, they were always by our side trying to make sure we recovered.  There is a quote from the noble prophet of Islam, Muhammad (peace be upon him), who once said: "Paradise lies in the feet of the mother."  In Islam, the mother is very significant.  The noble Prophet said that we should first have love for God, then him (the Prophet), then our mother, then our mother again, then our mother once again, and then our father.  He even said even if they did things to misguide us or things we did not like, we should still have respect for them.  I couldn't find any other quote better than this.  

i agree with you because everytime that i fight with my mom i really hate her and i just thinks that she doesnt care about me at all and i never talk to her about my feelings i dont usually like talking about my feelings with people but i just hate when my mom doesnt agree with me.

Dear Willa,

I agree with you that parents can be misunderstanding. I got into many arguments with my mom because she misunderstood what I said. But getting into arguments with your parents isnt good. The child should always be obediant to their parents and not talk back. But I'm pretty sure your stepmom cares about you and she just forgot how hard it was as a teenager.

This comic shows a mom and a girl shopping. The girl buys a dress that everyone was buying and later she is upset that everyone is wearing it. I think sometimes you have to think of how you act because maybe it's not your parents, it's you.

My parents understand me but they mostly don't  understand me. Also me and my mom fight alot but me and my dad don't fight that much. It really makes me sad when parents and their kids fight. I don't really think that parents understand kids.

Hi willad,

I understand how it is to feel that your parents don't understand you and what you're going through as a teenager. I too fight with my parents a lot, especially with my mom. And when I yell at her I get really loud and maybe rude. But when I think back after some time, she always had a reason to yell at me. (I mean most of the time) 

What I would like to say is that we have to try to understand our parents more. They are going through a lot bringing us up to be good adults who know how to take care of ourselves. They don't want us to go the wrong way. You have to think about the pressures they likely have from outside of home. You are officially called a teenager for maybe 6 years, but you depend on your parents for living for a lot more years.

So.. maybe you could yell at them a couple times, but try to put yourself in their shoes and understand what they have on their plate.

Hi Willa, this is Kelly.

My Point of View:

When I read this post I could relate this so much to my life which almost made me cry. What makes me sad is that my parents really try to understand the way I feel and try to make me feel better when I am sad but it never works sometimes it makes me feel even worse. Sometimes they weren't on my side which made me feel really sad which makes me question "Do they really love me?" Sometimes I wish they remember how hard it probably was for them to be a kid and that they keep that in mind everytime they talk to us and everything.

Parents' Point of View:

We have to keep in mind and remember that even though our roles might not be easy, theirs aren't either. Even though I am not parent lol I can imagine how hard it is for them to be a parent and how much stress they have being a parent plus sometimes having a job especially is they have a toddler or an infant. They probably try really hard to do their best as a parent and we have to keep in mind that no one is perfect and we have to forgive their mistakes, so yeah we have a tough time being a kid so might they being a parent we just have remember that the next time they did something that didn't satisfy you that usually it's for a good cause even if you might not know it at the moment.

Connection: Reminds me of "Freaky Friday".