Sex Ain't Better Than Love

How do you know when you are in love? I was researching this question online and I found a few articles that caught my attention because their titles were right on the nose. I choose this topic because I love love. I am the type of person who loves to be loved by everyone. I love to give love and be around it. I’m what you would call an “Love Junkie.” A “Love Junkie” is someone who gets high off of love.

“Researchers also found falling in love only takes about a fifth of a second.” -Stephanie Ortigue

The quote I chose here is basically saying that falling in love is not at all a long process. I believe this is extremely too fast. What about knowing the person? Does this mean that you can engage in eye contact with someone on the train and know whether you would like to spend the rest of your life with them?

I think this quote is unrealistic because I find it unbelievable to fall in love in 12 seconds. It makes me wonder about the relationships around me. Within a month of being in a relationship with my girlfriend, I realized that I deeply cared about her but I don’t think I loved her at that point. Maybe they mean that you could know this person your whole life and 12 seconds after having a certain conversation with them you realize that you are secretly in love with them that's intense.

“Love exists above the belt, lust is below. Love is lyrical, lust is lewd.”-L. Obringer

This quote is basically saying love is like a song or a poem. They’re saying love comes from the heart while lust is indecent.

I think this quote is authentic because love is like a song from your heart that plays through your body and is expressed by your actions. It makes me wonder though, don’t you need lust or attraction for someone to love them? I guess this means that love has a lot more to do with sex than people think.

“Love is a sweet trap from which no one departs without tears.” -Wikipedia

This quote means love makes you vulnerable. When you lose someone you really care about, eventually tears will fall. If you really loved that person their absence is going to hit you really hard because you’re used to their voice, face and actions. Life feels empty and of course this causes depression.

I think this is deep because it explains how love is a trap in which you have no control. If your love is strong enough, you are bound to shed some tears for your lost one. It makes me wonder if a person who has lost many loved ones is defeated by this pain to the point that they can't cry anymore.

I learned a lot about love thanks to the research I did. Love has three main components which are: lust, attraction and attachment. Love happens in that exact order. I know this to be true because any relationship starts out with how a person looks. If he/she looks good to you, most of the time you begin to lust for them which is a sexual attraction. Then you begin to become attracted to their character traits. Lastly attachment comes. This stage lets you know how serious you and your partner will become. This is the stage where your relationship goes through many challenges and depending on how strong your bond is, your relationship will either stand the test of time or fail. Love is a pleasurable emotion that can be painful at times.

Sources:

Falling in love. (2012, February 6). In Wikipedia, The Free Encyclopedia. Retrieved 18:08, March 19, 2012, from http://en.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Falling_in_love&oldid=475389822

Obringer, L. (1986) HowStuffWorks "How Love Works". [online] Available at: http://people.howstuffworks.com/love1.htm/printable [Accessed: 19 Mar 2012].

Stephanie Ortigue, Francesco Bianchi-Demichel, Nisa Patel. Chris Frum, and James Lewis. Sciencedaily.com (2010) Falling in love only takes about a fifth of a second, research reveals. [online] Available at: http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2010/10/101022184957.htm [Accessed: 19 Mar 2012].

My Dialectical Notes: https://docs.google.com/document/d/18ppuBVGmizP_rKElUpwxYSCOB41FkezMoX13...