Tough Love

Dear caseyc:

I enjoyed your post, “Tough Love,” because most of the things you mention I agree with. One sentence you wrote that stands out for me is: “How can some one just sit there and take it while your child watches mommy or daddy get beaten?” I think this is true because I don’t understand how someones’ child can watch their parent get beaten and I also think is must be hard for a kid to see that. But in my opinion this would affect me because I won’t be able to see my parents get beaten I would help them and protect them and also it will hurt me a lot and I’ll be in tears too. Another sentence that I enjoyed was: “It's sad to see or hear your family member is being beaten and what really gets to me is the fact that the perpetrator is just one person and everyone who knows about it doesn't do anything to help the other one out of the situation.” This stood out for me because I agree that it’s hard for someone to see a family member beaten because it’s sad. Also what I don’t like is that no one will help you and they will act like they don’t care. Your post reminds me of something that happened to me. One time I was walking down the street and I saw an adult and she was already beaten. I felled bad for her and I noticed that everybody just looked at her and didn’t try to help her out. So what I did is I ask her she if was OK and she didn’t answer and I wonder that maybe she was sleeping. So I left home but I felt bad for her. Thanks for your writing. I look forward to seeing what you write next, because I like how your show your opinion and also I like that you put questions in your post because other readers can give you their answer and what they thinks. I enjoyed reading your post.

Dear Casey:

I am enjoyed your post, "Tough Love" because it was something that I have thought about before and I find it interesting, but somehow confusing how people can stay with others that abuse them and hurt them in different ways.

One sentence you wrote that stands out for me is: "Then make excuses for them like, "Oh he/she loves me, it's me, I deserved it, it was my fault." They sit there and blame themselves for everything." I think this is so true because often, people who have been abused, do blame themselves for everything because that other abuser makes them feel as if it's their fault that they're in that position. I believe that this is awful to make someone feel this way but somehow, it seems like some people actually don't care about the feelings of others.

Another sentence that I really thought about was: "It's sad to see or hear your family member is being beaten and what really gets to me is the fact that the perpetrator is just one person and everyone who knows about it doesn't do anything to help the other one out of the situation. " This stood out for me because I have noticed that sometimes people actually don't want to get involved because they feel as if it's not their business to get into someone else's conflict. In my eyes, I feel that if something is wrong and I realize that it's wrong, I deserve to say something and get the abused person out of that position.

Your post reminds me of something that happened to me. One time, I had a friend in middle school who was in a position where her mother's boyfriend was always beating her mother and the mother will always go back to her boyfriend as if nothing had happened. My friend was very upset because she knew that she had to get her mother out of that position but she just didn't know how and I know it was really hurting her inside.

Thanks for your writing. I look forward to seeing what you write next, because I can see we have thought about mutual things before and this was really an interesting post to me.

Dear Casey:

I loved your post “Tough Love,” because it was very powerful. With the very few words you used, you made it a strong statement. One sentence you wrote that stands out for me is: “How can some one just sit there and take it while your child watches mommy or daddy get beaten?” I think this is a good question, because it’s one that not even the victims themselves have serious answers to. You’re right, it’s always the excuse of “I love him/her,” love doesn’t cut a beating from someone who’s suppose to respect you.

Another sentence that caught my attention was: “My heart goes out to those who stood up and left.” This stood out for me because, those were the strong ones. The strong ones are the ones who you acknowledge and who know where they stand. No man should ever touch a woman he loves in a violent way, that’s not love.

Your post reminds me of something that happened to me. One time in Middle School, I had this friend that was traumatized with the abuse from her father. He would beat her and her mother. As she sat there telling me, I could tell she needed someone to talk to. It broke my heart to see her so broken down, the worst part was she didn’t know what to do. Her mom was in denial of leaving her father, she loved him.

Thanks for your writing. I look forward to seeing what you write next, because you seem like a strong writer. It’d be interesting to read more of your posts.

Dear caseyc:
I truly do agree with your post about tough love. One sentence you wrote that I agree with “ It’s sad to see or hear your family member is being beaten.” I think this sentence is true because I sometimes feel very sorry for people whose family members are always getting beaten or hurt by their lovers.

Another sentence that I agree with is “One person can not take on five or three people at once.” I agree with this because I think people who see bad things happening should speak out to higher authorities such as the cops or at least help the victim who is in need of help.

This post reminds me of my friend’s sister who had a boyfriend who always beat and abused her. So one day my friend found out and he confronted his sister’s boyfriend with his older cousins and they taught him a lesson he will probably never forget.

Thanks for writing. I look forward to reading your comments towards my reply. I really think this post was very essential to people who are experiencing this type of problem at home.