Why Do I Get Jealous in a Relationship?!?!?!?
Something that I have been interested in learning more about has been jealousy in a relationship. I remember one of my friends was talking about it last week, but she didn’t explain exactly why she was jealous of other girls while she’s in a relationship. Lately, this issue has caught my eye again. I know that many people feel that jealousy can end a relationship. From what I have heard, people get jealous because they are afraid to lose their mate to someone else. Now that’s just what I heard, it may or may not be true.
One thing that I know for sure about jealousy in a relationship is that a feeling like that is so strong that it can break up a relationship. Now, I’ve studied my share of human minds, and I know that you can’t control the feeling of jealousy. Personally, it’s funny to me how a little bit of jealousy can lead to such a big mark. I’ve heard of good relationships being broken up because of jealousy.
Jealousy was important in my past. When I was in a relationship, I used to get jealous of all the girls that would write on my boyfriend’s wall on Facebook. I’m single now, but I get jealous when I see my sister with her boyfriend or if I see “cuffing” pictures on Tumblr. Sometimes I get lonely and want to feel loved by someone else besides family; but, I do love my family.
Being that I didn’t have a lot of background information on jealousy in a relationship, I chose to do some research on the topic. As I searched for blogs and news articles on Google, I came across this one article: “How Does Jealousy Affect a Relationship?” http://www.ehow.com/how-does_4623805_jealousy-affect-relationship.html This article provided a lot of information and opinion on jealousy affecting a relationship. Some people felt that jealousy while in a relationship can be controlled as long as you are honest and opened with your partner. “The first effect of excessive jealousy is that it causes continual fear, worry and even paranoia in the one who is jealous.” This statement didn’t really surprise me all that much, because everyone is afraid to lose someone they love.
In another article http://www.unp.me/f38/how-to-avoid-jealousy-in-relationships-34070/ there was this one statement that made me nod my head in agreement with the writer. It was: “Jealousy, for those who can't control it, is detrimental to a relationship because it eats away at the one thing that holds it together: trust.” This is so true, because without trust there shouldn’t even be a relationship at all. Jealousy can cause people to do crazy things and make their mate feel uncomfortable and want to end the relationship.
All of this makes me think that jealousy can really effect a relationship in many negative ways. If a person tells their mate not to do certain things or not to talk to people of the opposite sex then there would be issues between them and their relationship. They wouldn’t be able to do the things they did before being in a relationship such as, being friendly, sociable, and caring. The mate will take that as a threat toward him or her making them want to put a relationship to an end. Point is, everyone wants a person for themselves.